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There's a word qvell which means to be so proud, (usually of your children), that you just want to burst. Well, I just spent a few days with my grandchildren and I am qvelling at the fabulous job my daughter Laurie is doing with them. My grandson, Braden Robert, three years old, can carry on an intelligent conversation. He can tell you about astronauts, why it rains, or any number of other things. His imagination is wonderful. I was Wendy, his eight month old baby sister Bailey was Nana the dog, and he was Peter Pan, (even though he wore his pirate's costume). He saved us numerous times from the clutches of Captain Hook, otherwise known as grandpa. He is also quite adept with the computer and will patiently tell me what website he wants me to pull up for him down to the .com or .org. so that he can use the mouse to play games. Bailey Rebecca sits quietly and takes in everything her big brother does. She crawls like a soldier on a military mission, can chew on her own toes, and climb a step. Oh, and she's learning sign language too.
I’m also qvelling for my son. His first book, The Presidential Book of Lists: From Most to Least, Elected to Rejected, Worst to Cursed—Fascinating Facts About Our Chief Executives
, by Ian Randal Strock, is coming out with Random House's Villard Books on October 21, 2008.
In conjunction with his book, he has recently begun a blog devoted almost exclusively to presidential trivia and politics/government discussions. Check it out at uspresidents.livejournal.com
In addition he is the editor of www.SFScope.com
the finest, and most up to the minute website for anyone interested in any aspect of science fiction, fantasy or horror.
With everything going on about my son's book, I have been ignoring the marketing aspect of my own, the second edition of Married Women Who Love Women
. But I am retiring as of October 7, 2008 and hope to rectify that soon. Please feel free to share this blog with your friends and especially, tell them about Ian's book, blog, and website.
people are becoming more comfortable|
I wanted to share something exciting that happened since the second edition of my book, Married Women Who Love Women
came out. A couple of women approached me about the possibly of using my book for their Book Groups, and then having me come to talk to them. One said, "we're always wanting to learn and to understand new things." I guess that shows that people are becoming more comfortable with the topic. These were straight women's book groups.
When the first edition came out, some women could hardly pick the book up. I do understand though. There was a time during my early discovery that I couldn't pick up a book with the word "lesbian" on the cover. Now I realize that if anyone has a problem with who or what I am, the problem is theirs, not mine. I'll let you know if their groups go for the idea. And if you belong to a Book Group, or know anyone else who does, please feel free to suggest my book to them.
PS If you see this posting among other comments it's because I'm still getting the knack of this livejournal stuff and goofed again so please bear with me. (I'm really good with a hammer and nails, a needle and thread or a sketch pad and a pencil.)
Oops. I thought I was posting to Ian Randal Strock's journal
when I made my last comment so I'm not sure how it showed up here. All I can say is that if it weren't for Ian I'd probably still be using a pad and a pen. I really am a Renaissance woman. give me anything with a hammer and nails, a paintbrush and a canvas, a needle and thread, and I'm off and running. but give me anything with more than three buttons and - oh well. . .
On a different note,
I would have thought that publishing a second book, and especially a second edition, (Married Women Who Love Women) would have been easy after the first but I am learning a heck of a lot. first of all, if you ever publish a second edition, change the title. Writing second edition below the title is not enough. I've been trying to find out why Barnes and Noble had so few copies in their warehouses and after eight or nine phone calls to their distribution center I connected with someone who said she'd check it out with the new editions person at Routledge. While we chatted she pulled up the Barnes and Noble website. "Your book has all five star ratings," she said. Of course we should be carrying it." Anyway, she'll get back to me once this is cleared up. The moral of the story - your book is your baby and you are the one who needs to take care of it.
That was beautiful. I wouldn't mind reading about the different people on the subway. They really are interesting to watch.
Incidentally, I wonder if those women were women I interviewed for the second edition of my book "Married Women Who Love Women" which just came out with Routledge.
Carren Strock (AKA Ian's Mom)
My book is out|
This has been a very nice week. Routledge rushed my book and I received my first copies on Tuesday. They look great. Then I spoke with someone about a women's gathering I couldn't attend and she offered to put out my fliers. Someone else offered to bring them to the National Women's Studies Association conference (than 2,000 attendees) while I go to the International Women's Writing Workship in Saratoga Springs. I leave on Friday for the week. The website for this wonderful organization is www.iwwg.org Ian is going to teach me how to do links but we've both been very busy. I also connected with someone who might be interested in a 15 minute script I wrote. We'll see how that pans out.
Last weekend I attended a Joan Anderson workshop. She wrote "A Year by the Sea", the story of a woman who leaves home to find herself. There were many similarities to what she was talking about and to how I discovered who I was and came to be my own person. Being your own person, whoever that turns out to be, is very exciting. Taking time out for yourself makes you more interesting and relieves much of the pressure that women especially live with - care of home, children, grands, elderly parents. More on this when I have the time.
It's hard to believe how quickly time has gone since I touched this blog. More than nine months. But I have been busy. Haworth Press bought the second edition of Married Women Who Love Women
. They were then bought out by Taylor and Frances, and, long story short, Routledge, a division of Taylor and Francis, is going to publish it in early June. But because Taylor and Frances is an academic press, their marketing is much different than Doubleday's was for the first edition. That means additional work for me to get word of this book out.
One third of the book will be new and include additional chapters on the single lovers of married women, redefined marriages, and labeling. Each time I speak with someone else, I learn of new dimensions to this issue. I'm already thinking about what can be added for a third edition in the future.
I'm also working on a book that I've tentatively titled The Smart Writer's Guide: What to Know Before, During, and After Writing a Book
. I spent this weekend with my grand babies at a dude ranch and while we all had a wonderful time, each time I'm away from it for a while, I find myself having to reread and rework. That's happening now.
At the same time, I'm preparing for the workshops I'll be teaching at the International Women's Writing Guild
's workshop at Saratoga Springs in mid June.
reflections on writing|
Keeping up a journal is more difficult than I thought. Ideas and thoughts come to me too quickly to note and then pass by just as quickly. I do keep a pads throughout the house and in the car for the purpose of noting these things down but sometimes they are just too fleeting.
Yesterday however, I had an aha moment. I was talking with Pat, a dear writer friend, about the books that others in our writers group have written. And a thought came to me. As I read most of our group's work, I can hear the voice of the writer, but when I read Pat's, I am totally thrown into her characters and never hear her. I'm not saying one is better than the other. I think hearing the writer's own voice might give a signature to future works, sort of like Mary Higgins Clark. You know exactly what to expect when you pick up her books. But not hearing the writer's voice, each book is a totally new experience.
I wonder if anyone who knows me will hear my voice in my writing. I don't mean in my book "Married Women Who Love Women" because my own story threads through that, but in my novel "Tangled Ribbons" (when I find a publisher for it), or in my YA book "Secret Survivors" (when I find a publisher for that.)
I can see my own growth as a writer as I self-edit "Secret Survivors" and am looking forward to getting it out into the world once I finish.
Braden Robert, the only man who can make me forget about my writing, is coming to visit this weekend. His mom is bringing him as he's only 26 months old, and while he's quite precocious, he can't yet drive. Which reminds me, I have to start putting things away.
more out writing|
Today I resurected a manuscript for middle school aged kids. I had written it several years ago and thought it was wonderful. It had several close maybes and many rejections before I stopped sending it out. As I read it now, I realize how passive my voice was. I am now making it more active. I had planned to finish rewriting it this weekend and send it out but as I read through I see more and more to rework so submitting it will have to wait a little longer.
When I complained to Ian abut having 27 rejections on another piece of writing his response was, "and how many rejections did Dr. Suess have?" (I had heard 57.) I guess I had forgotten what I tell the writers who attend my workshops. Don't give up. It only takes one person to say yes.
Back to my editing now.
the world of writing|
More about my screenplay Gay Wife. Three people have contacted me through my ads. One I believe wanted me to pay him. Although he didn't say that, his web site said that he charged for his services as a manager or representative etc. I sent my synopsis to the second caller and he now wants to see the entire script but he said immediately that his company has no money up front. The third caller sounded very nice and I will send him my script tomorrow. I just received his signed non-disclosure form. He says he knows a lot of people and is fascinated by the topic. He was the executive producer for another movie which means he got the funding together.
I'm sending my novel, Tangled Ribbons to Tor. I'm just so tired of looking for agents and the editor there said she'd read it because the previous editor left and they couldn't find my manuscript.
I feel like a juggler with three balls in the air - so far. I have several more projects in varying stages waiting to go out into the world.
Wish me luck.
Guilt is overtaking me. Once I start a project, I really do like to see it through. I guess I feel that way about this blob too. I've started it so I should keep it up. Although just how much information to divulge is a constant question. As I say in my book, Married Women Who Love Women, "once you put it out there, you can never take it back."
But there is one thing I do talk about constantly. Braden Robert. Braden Robert is a guy who makes my heart sing. He's a twenty-six month old who can walk into a room and totally control it. His grasp of the language and his counting abilities- and understanding- blow me away. He was feeding his piggy bank and counting each coin as he did so. He put two coins in at once and counted from five to seven. "What happened to six," I asked. He pointed to the bank, "It's in there."
He's sensitive enough to say "Daddy's sad." And when asked why, smart enough to say, "Braden won't share his toys." When i said, "will you share your toys with Daddy next time so he won't be sad. Braden thought about it for a while and then decided, "No." Non-the less, he understands consequences. When he hits, he has to go to the "time out" chair. One day, he was making his Woody and Buzz dolls fight with each other. His mother came in and said, "what are you doing?" Braden looked at his dolls and said, "a oh, no fighting, time out," and he put them in the time out chair.
I've been trying to find homes for various writing projects and recently put ads in the Hollywood Reporter and Variety for my screenplay "GAY WIFE." The first week no one called although I carried my cell-phone around constantly. I've now had three calls. More soon.
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